Comments on: Does She Really Love You If…

By: Darren Young

Darren Young — Sat, 03 Mar 2007 11:55:52 +0000

Hi,don’t take any notice of this new age sensitive guy,touchy feely BS.You are not that naive now,or are you?. Either she is with you,if not,then tell her to take a hike. Hopefully you have cojones.

By: Marsha

Marsha — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 03:51:45 +0000

Hmm. I would have just told her I wasn’t comfortable with that. i would have said Darling I love you and I wish there was a way that this didn’t sound possessive but it makes me uncomfortable that you have guys over here alone with you. I know you have guy friends but to me it’s a respect issue. i’m not going to have my women friends over when you are not here, out of respect for you and I really would like if you can compromise and give me this. I need this from you. What do you think. Then if she makes a fuss…You have to make a decision as to whether you can deal with that or no. let her know you can’t deal (because its a dealbreaker). Tell her it will make you hearthbroken to have to break up but you are sorry, that is something that will always be a source of contention. :(

By: Jarred Malone

Jarred Malone — Wed, 28 Feb 2007 06:45:11 +0000

She is playing you like a fiddle.And you if you beleive that she brings these men around to discuss sushi with them.Then you are the wanker that that i thought you were.

By: veltis

veltis — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 12:19:21 +0000

Eh. If you’re in a relationship where you feel you have to set up preventive measures like “don’t be alone in a room with another guy!” there’s something wrong with the relationship itself, or with your self-esteem. If she really wants to start an affair, she’ll do it with or without your precautions. When you meet someone you REALLY connect with, you don’t have to worry about being cheated on, no matter what hidden agenda her platonic guy friends might have. If they hit on her, she’ll be mad at them for screwing up the friendship.

Caveat: Some women are unreliable bitches. But some men are domineering assholes. Try not be either one.

By: David

David — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 21:01:45 +0000

Dude, I’m going through the same thing, girls is perfect, but we drive each other nuts for something as stupid as not picking up my phone while I’m in the shower. BTW platonic in womens terms means, have sex without BF knowing :P

By: Jaanee

Jaanee — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 01:36:26 +0000

Women are perfectly capable of having long-term platonic relationships with men. I've had one with my husband for years now.

Strange as it may seem (me being 47 and from the middle of the U.S.) I enjoy the blog. Cheers!

By: KE Liew

KE Liew — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 07:45:07 +0000

Right...

Ya know what's most sad? That a person like you can fall for a girl like that. Talk 'bout intelligence without wisdom.

Besides, ya should get over it. You're just weak if a girl can take ya down like that, she wins, you lose. In fact, well, more girls will like ya like that anywayz. More fuckfest? ;)

By: mike

mike — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 03:31:24 +0000

I stumbled on to your blog through the OfRiceandZen podcast, and I just wanted to leave a comment. I read through all the old posts and podcasts/videos and they are great! You are absolutely hilarious. I am totally looking forward to the new food blog, if I could make a suggestion I would ask that instead of just doing food reviews you could also talk about cooking and maybe the Japanese diet in general. You seem to be quite the chef judging from your Flickr stream.

Jonkenpon is looking great too, I have been fooling around with the 8app beta Orchestra and its been pretty nice. Keep up the good work.

By: Jacob

Jacob — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 17:39:58 +0000

No, it’s not okay.

Women don’t understand that men are incapable of having a truly platonic relationship with a woman. If a man is hanging out with a woman - no matter how much he may simply enjoy her company - there is ALWAYS some degree of hope that he will be getting some from her.

I know women want to believe this isn’t the case, and that it’s horrifying to them that we haven’t evolved beyond our true neanderthal state… but, that’s just the way it is. If a guy tells you that’s the case, then he’s lying to you (and perhaps to himself) - because he thinks he’ll be able to get some from you.

And, this is why guys feel jealous when another man is hanging around with their girlfriend or wife. On some level, all guys know this is true.

By: ashan

ashan — Sun, 04 Feb 2007 02:18:11 +0000

sporadically?

By: Spatula Man

Spatula Man — Mon, 29 Jan 2007 17:24:20 +0000

This guy posts like you do:

http://www.neopoleon.com/home/blogs/neo/archive/2007/01/23/24180.aspx

Sue him.

By: Fat Gaijin Slapper

Fat Gaijin Slapper — Sun, 28 Jan 2007 17:04:53 +0000

Put a camera in the toilet. Looking up, out of the bowl.

(Only for later blackmail purposes, mind.)

By: Fred

Fred — Sun, 28 Jan 2007 11:24:45 +0000

dude.. you really opened up a can of worms with this one..

i say it’s only ok if she tells you about these “meetings” ahead of time.. and you should be allowed to drop by anytime.. if she refuses, she’s got something to hide.. and that means your instincts were right all along…

it’s damn near impossible to trust someone unconditionally.. being a guy, you know damn well how most guys are just dogs.. after a few drinks, under the right conditions, if she happens to drop her guard for five minutes, anything can happen.. even if it’s not her fault..

yea, yea.. i know what you’re thinking.. but who’s got the time to baby sit their girlfriend 24/7? well, you’re a smart guy.. pull some resources together.. get someone you can trust to be the inside man in these “meetings”.. aren’t you’re a tech guy? plant one of them pin hole cameras at her place or sumthin.. you’ll figure it out…

By: Joseph

Joseph — Sat, 27 Jan 2007 18:09:25 +0000

Yongfook, Yongfook, the secret to women is to: $%@$#%@%@#^@^. Got it? Anyhow, there is a reason masturbation was invented.

By: splutter

*splutter* — Sat, 27 Jan 2007 15:23:09 +0000

The Answer to Everything.. is, 42.

And Option c) prevention is better than cure - solve possessiveness/insecurity issues first.

By: ikuko

ikuko — Fri, 26 Jan 2007 00:27:00 +0000

I think it’s the best that your relationship w your GF ended…whether she loved you or not. It is such a HELL to be stuck w someone whose belief and morals are different. People’s thoughts/core will not change, or he/she will pretend to be someone who she/he is not=”cheating.”

I really resent being in this permanent stuck thing with a guy who is TOTALLY different, FIRE and WATER. I wish I could go far away, maybe I will.

By: muffty

muffty — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 07:55:52 +0000

congrats reinstated. you are doing well. wasnt trying to mean you should live on the streets. moi is a little stoopid. of course you need the capital. me is still hoping that jkp goes skyhigh. lots of love.

By: Aurelia

Aurelia — Sun, 21 Jan 2007 04:38:46 +0000

dude, she was sooooooooooo DOING IT with those guys. always go with your gut instinct.

By: yongfook

yongfook — Sun, 21 Jan 2007 03:20:23 +0000

I seriously had no idea. Very weird.

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 21 Jan 2007 02:51:04 +0000

Actually, it was a direct link- your face was right up on the top page of Yahoo Taiwan. Check near the bottom of the page, in the æˆ€æ„›é—œä¿‚ category. My Chinese isn’t great either, but damn it I know a dating site when I see one.

The picture was closely cropped from the photo in your recent “Unemployed” post. It’s gone now, replaced by a pretty girl’s face, but maybe they’ll bring it back. Hell, your handsome mug probably got a record number of hits, so they’d be fools not to.

So you didn’t know about this? If I had known the picture was used without your permission, I would have captured the screen…